A few years ago, my eldest daughter, then 11, borrowed a friend’s phone and texted a mean message about another girl. Of course it went viral within a matter of moments and the drama flared.
My first instinct was to punish her by taking away her playdates (oops, I mean hang-outs), but that wouldn’t be a memorable lesson. Instead, I took her outside on a beautiful spring Sunday morning with a feather pillow. She looked at me as if I were insane as I cut the pillow open and said to her, “spread these feathers all over our yard.”
After she completed the task in approximately 2 minutes, I said to her, “now pick up each and every feather.” By late afternoon that day, she was still picking up feathers.
That night she said to me in tears, “Mommy, I now understand how easy it is to say something bad about someone and how difficult it is to take it back.” She proceeded to sit down and write a heart-felt apology letter to the girl she had hurt.
From that day, I have not heard her bad-mouth another friend.
Camille Cosby, wife of Bill, relayed in an interview that the way she healed from the tragic death of her son, Ennis, was to “Go through the pain.” That is, feel the pain – not dull it by impulsively turning to food, drugs, alcohol or smoking.
Camille said that, as a result, she learned how to rebuild herself in a “more meaningful way. We learned to not rush through things as we talk to one another…Not to just rush through a day.”
One of the biggest reasons people do our healthy body reboot – the JOOS Cleanse – is to develop mindfulness in order to liberate ourselves from our bad habits so that we can rebuild ourselves in a “more meaningful way.”
Empower yourself through eating a plant rich diet, just for one week, and see how great you feel.